Sitting on the porch on a gloomy cold Wednesday morning got me thinking about the mirage called “Future”. What is the future, another breath that we will take, a month later, a year later, a time when we will be old, a period when our bodies will give up … what is the future?
What is it that we think when we say… save for the future, happiness in the future, what future will hold…. what exactly are we thinking?
Thinking about the future stems from experiences of our past, the snippets of life that we witness for ourselves, our loved ones, and even strangers. All of us have a vision for our future which is unique to us as it is the culmination of our thoughts, our experiences, our desires, and our insecurities.
The fear psychosis brought about by the fear of the unknown makes us save money, build a house, and accumulate gold as somewhere deep down in our subconscious, we see ourselves alone- dependent on medications and caregivers and therefore financial stability captures a large chunk of our subconscious.
Married people with kids want to save for the education of their kids and hope that their children will take care of them when they are old….. but is it guaranteed? Will the children do so? Children once married want their own life, and their dreams to pursue…. Parents…siblings all become relegated to a second third or even fourth level in the subconscious mind. So is it even worth sacrificing your dreams or giving up on what makes you happy in anticipation of saving for your children’s/ sibling’s future?
I am not advocating being selfish, if you brought a life to earth, you must take care of it. If you take responsibility for your sibling, you must do so. What I am trying to stimulate your thoughts on is that you also matter, you don’t cease to exist just because you care for another person, and you also have your own life to live for. Having a baby or getting married is not the end of your dreams, you have only this life so don’t relegate yourself to a second/ third/ fourth level of importance. If you do not care for yourself, the sad truth is that no one else will.
Mothers feel sacrificing themselves for their children will make their children love them…. how many of such parents are old, sad, and alone with children working and having a life abroad, how many of these parents are in old age homes and the same children they raised consider them being a burden, how many of such parents die alone in big palatial houses with neighbours calling the cops to report their deaths. This is the sad truth so live your life too while taking care of your siblings, spouse, and children. I am not saying that this happens to all parents/ siblings but isn’t it a possibility for you too?
On your deathbed, it should not regret on a life wasted but a life well lived.
I know it is much simple to say so rather than do it. All of us question our existence, the reason for living, the unfathomable future, the fine lines appearing on our faces, the loneliness of life, the stresses of work and the insecurities of life, and feeling gloomy and depressed. It’s natural and nothing would change the circle of life.
That is why I implore all of us via my thoughts to work on your happiness despite challenges. Work will suck, things won’t move, you will have or won’t have kids, you may be destined to be alone, future may or may not be scary.. who knows. If God/fate wanted us to see our future he/she would have given us the ability to do so. If it is hidden from us means we are subtly asked to live in the present and try and find happiness in what we have.
Depression hits all of us, questioning our existence is normal, and thoughts on a black hole for the future is a given…. get over it. It is easy to give in to gloomy thoughts and overthinking trivial matters but what if depression deeply engrains your subconscious??? Life would go from bad to worse. So be strong, only you can control your mind, and your thoughts and steer them to positivity. So, fight it out and try to get at least one person/child to smile. Maybe that innocent smile is what you need to heal your soul, so go ahead and help a fellow human have a happy day today… keep smiling😊😊😊😊😊.
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